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Good Girls Talk About Sex


Mar 11, 2021

Caitlin returns for a follow-up coaching session with her partner, Chris. They check in with Leah about their BDSM explorations, dom/sub dynamics, communication in and out of play sessions, aftercare, safe words, bruising, pleasure, and sourcing and trying new ideas.

 

Bookmark moments:

  • 4:20 - Caitlin and Chris catch Leah up on the new-to-them BDSM they’ve been exploring and what they’d like support with.
  • 7:31 - Caitlin is clear that sub is her turf.
  • 8:38 - They get into specifics with impact tools, paddles, riding crop, switch, etc. Chris explains how he manages and escalates the impact using a 1-10 scale and timing set to playdate playlist.
  • 12:55 - Leah talks about safe-wording to help Caitlin really get into sub space and also to give Chris reassurance. The line rests in the hands of the sub. Leah also talks about non-verbal safe cues.
  • 17:55 - Chris shares his progress since the start of their sexual partnership.
  • 20:29 - PJ Parties for Grownups!
  • 23:13 - Pleasure dynamics for the dom, and physically dominating vs verbally dominating. Chris has an easier time with one over the other and is naturally a giver, so Leah helps him find new some avenues and techniques.
  • 27:07 - Making a restaurant-style command or activity menu ahead of time can help. Leah shares a few tips.
  • 30:53 - Navigating voyeurism/exhibitionism, consent, and safe places to engage.
  • 36:21 - The Yes/No/Maybe list is great for finding and knowing your hard red lines. It’s also a good idea to revisit the list periodically. Leah shares other resources and talks about BDSM tasting events.
  • 41:31 - Chris talks about finding and pushing the limits as a dom while still being careful not to hurt her.
  • 43:50 - Each play session is separate and discrete; always check in fresh.
  • 44:56 - Is pushing BDSM limits healthy? If you’re having consensual fun, carry on.
  • 48:26 - Here’s how to work with Leah.

  

Resources mentioned: 

  • Three Minute Game
  • Yes / No / Maybe list
  • Literotica

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak