Dec 10, 2020
Lachlan was born with a vagina. His is the story of how a boy
learned to be a girl, then learned to be invisible, then a lesbian,
before learning that he could just be who he was all along, except
that it’s still … complicated.
In this super-sized episode…
Lachlan is a 41-year-old transgender man. He describes himself
as white, straight-ish, monogamish and single. He describes his
body as a round, cuddly bear.
- 6:33 - Lachlan shares the complications around early sexual
desire for him, because he knew he was attracted to other little
- 11:11 - Lachlan’s parents don’t pressure him to gender conform
as a kid, though trans isn’t a known thing back then. Until, a
birthday party. He learns about “passing” and blouses, and
struggles through his teens.
- 18:21 - He talks about his rich fantasy life as a teen, in
which he is a tall handsome football-playing penis-bearing male
vaguely modeled on Macguyver.
- 23:08 - Lachlan’s first sexual experience of any kind is at age
21 with his first girlfriend, who teaches him to masturbate. He
- 35:37 - The concept of transgender comes into his
- 40:49 - Lachlan comes out, despite fearing he will lose his
- 46:44 - After the news is broken to his father (by his mother)
it is never spoken of between them again.
- 47:18 - Lachlan shares outward steps of transition; therapy,
hormones, telling people you work with, growing facial hair.
- 53:36 - Becoming a man complicates his lesbian
- 55:05 - Lachlan details how sexuality transitions along with
transitioning: the impacts of testosterone, top and bottom surgical
options, the discomfort of still having to get a pap smear,
- 1:08:14 - Lachlan talks about the mechanics around having sex
in present day.
- 1:11:28 - Top surgery has enhanced appearance but decreased
- 1:14:45 - Heartbreak and pandemic create time alone.
- 1:16:12 - Lachlan passes fully as a male, and decides if and
when disclosure comes, in normal life as well as dating.
- 1:20:28 - He opens the door on bathroom talk.
- The entire Lowdown Q&A is on Patreon this week because this
episode was already SO long!!! Don’t forget – ALL audio
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