Oct 15, 2020
Jocelyn is a full-service sex worker who’s seen many aspects of
the industry, and who currently specializes in sexual healing and
sexual surrogacy.
Joslyn is a 37 year old, cisgender female who describes herself
as white, pansexual, polyamorous, single and dating, and
Canadian. She grew up in a Protestant Christian home.
She describes her body as athletic with curves.
How Healing Happens: Sex
work can be a bridge to all levels of healing, from getting basic
touch needs met to helping the body re-wire for safety after trauma
to helping people with physical difficulties achieve sexual
experiences at all.
Bookmark moments:
- 5:04 - Jocelyn shares her first memory of sexual
pleasure—kissing during after-school care with a boy she
liked.
- 7:30 - There was no Sex Ed or discussion at home. She was
raised by a single mom and she didn’t tell her when she got her
period.
- 10:40 - Jocelyn opens up about experiencing emotional,
physical, and sexual abuse at the hands of her father. When she
confronts him, he gets ugly.
- 20:42 - Jocelyn talks about her first consensual sexual
experience with her long-term boyfriend at age 17.
- 22:37 - She shares an early pregnancy and abortion experience
with the same boyfriend.
- 23:55 - She then has her first affair, with a beautiful man who
has a tiny penis. Discussion follows about tiny penis taboo, and
what men can do to pleasure a woman via other means.
- 31:13 - Friends keep asking Jocelyn to participate in
threesomes.
- 34:05 - Sex work comes into her life during a time of financial
struggle when she’s a single mom at age 29.
- 36:55 - Jocelyn shares her internal conflict about the stigma
of sex work even while the money is great. She starts to withdraw
from her friends.
- 39:37 - A friend introduces Jocelyn to “The Secret Diary of a
Call Girl” in the context of her own sex worker fantasies, and it
changes how Jocelyn relates to her profession. She begins to open
up to the healing potential of her work.
- 48:48 - Jocelyn talks about what a surrogate can do in the
context of healing sexual trauma.
- 50:10 - She gets into detail about being a sexual surrogate and
her work with folks with disabilities, and tells us about one
specific client.
- 1:02:42 - Jocelyn talks about her hard red lines, and how she
communicates boundaries to clients.
The audio extras for this episode are:
- Jocelyn’s first experience of penetration was not consensual
and involves some physical trauma that may be too graphic for some
listeners. Therefore I’ve placed it in this separate space so you
can opt in to listening to it if you choose. Jocelyn shares
how she initially gave consent, how it rapidly turned
non-consensual, the processing she has done in the intervening
years, and the feelings she now has about the man she was with that
night. This is available to everyone, regardless of whether you are
a patron or not.
- Jocelyn and I talk about whether the reported statistics for
childhood abuse of boys are far too low
- How Jocelyn separates her personal sexuality from her “work”
sexuality; also, how she talks with her son about sex
- The extended Lowdown Q&A
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