Mar 18, 2021
Jordan is a young mother of two young children; she’s also a doula, and therefore all up in bodies and their business. Her innate curiosity led her on a sex and biology research deep-dive that coincided with the start of her relationship with her husband. As a result, she is passionate in her work and home about open and aware sexual dialogue, consent, communication, and support.
Jordan is a 23-year-old cisgender female who describes herself as white, straight, monogamous and married with two kids. She grew up in a Christian home and she describes her body as “tall and lanky like a baby giraffe.”
Bookmark moments:
- Jordan shares her first memories of sexual pleasure. She started late at 16-17, and married early.
- Sex Ed was the usual, but her parents didn’t want her to attend the class without a frank but Christian-based family discussion first.
- She doesn’t tell anyone when she gets her period for a year despite overt symptoms that, when finally diagnosed, turn out to be polycystic ovarian syndrome. The pill is prescribed but creates a new set of problems.
- Early conversations between Jordan and her now-husband were honest and upfront about her health possibly precluding kids, even as they agreed she should come off the pill.
- Jordan talks about tracking her cycle for fertility awareness for birth control.
- PJ Parties for Grownups!
- Jordan tells the story of (reluctantly) meeting her husband.
- Jordan talks about the mental steps she took upon coming out of her Christian upbringing to open to pre-marital sex.
- When Jordan realizes there’s WAY more to sex than what she’s been taught growing up, she goes on a research bender and her now-husband was happy to lead the way and surf her learning curve.
- Jordan opens up about libido in the postpartum period and how she feels in her body.
- Jordan talks about being a birth doula, and she and Leah talk about mothers of young children being “touched out.” Jordan has a great hug metaphor to explain the very real energetic exchange—and loss.
- Postpartum sex.
- Jordan hopes to re-prioritize sex in the not-too-distant future.
- Jordan and her husband and thought and talked extensively about raising sex-positive, consent-aware, feminism- and equality-minded boys, while still celebrating their masculinity including their sexual journey.
The Lowdown (1:01:00)
Do you have hair down there or are you bare?
Do you think it's generally easy or challenging for you to orgasm?
Have you ever faked an orgasm?
The Patreon extras for this episode are:
Jordan’s first boyfriend, where she drew the line between "fooling around" and "having sex", learning to orgasm, and that time her ex-boyfriend slept with her best friend! Plus the full Lowdown Q&A.
Jordan talks at length about tandem breastfeeding her nine-month-old and her 2.5 year old and the AMAZING things our body is capable of! She also talks about sexual breast play with her husband while also breastfeeding her kids.
As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE! They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.
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