Dec 23, 2021
Whether it’s secretly watching our parents’ porn or uninformative Sex Ed, most of us get inadequate information about sex.
Liz learned to pleasure herself early on, then followed her instincts about who to kiss and when to have sex for the first time. The same inner compass led her to leave two marriages...
Dec 9, 2021
Is it normal to want dating without hook-ups? And what if you don’t even know who you want to date?
When you’re on the asexual spectrum with bisexual attractions, it can be confusing to chart desire and create a relationship that works for you. Alice from South Africa talks about having very little sex education and...
Nov 24, 2021
How do you know you’re queer if you don’t even know that’s an option? It’s hard to imagine what we can’t see.
Julia takes us through confusing early fantasies to landing that first girl-kiss to realizing what it means to love people with vaginas in all their gender presentations. Now she wants to...
Oct 28, 2021
Joy talks about taboo territory like incest porn, being HSV-2 positive, and trying out “water sports.” She has early memories of non-consensual experiences, which led to weak boundaries and a tendency towards dissociation and passivity. A hysterectomy and genital changes further changed her body and libido. She’s...
Oct 14, 2021
Brenda grew up in a “sex silent” household and transitioned right into purity culture. For a naturally highly sexual person, this spelled dysfunction and disaster. She found her way out of abuse and repression, went through a period of intense exploration, and she is now an advocate and educator for other survivors...