May 27, 2021
Vin goes from the prototypical good girl to a (nearly) fearless
adventurer. She married young, and enjoys a positive and openly
communicative sexual relationship with her husband. Vin opens up
about how their initial struggle to achieve penis-in-vagina sex led
her to explore erotica, kink, anal play, toys, plugs, and taboo
porn, all in a curvy body.
Vin is a 22-year-old cisgender female who describes herself as
Indigenous, monogamous, bisexual, and married. She grew up in
a Christian home and describes her body as “chunky.”
Bookmark moments:
- (3:38) Vin shares her first memory of sexual pleasure, before
the age of 7. Family movie night had the occasional “close your
eyes!” scene, and she got curious with her pillow.
- (11:40) Growing up, her parents demonstrated healthy affection
towards each other, but there was no sex talk and her older sisters
were mum on the subject. The family all find out late that the
eldest sister is gay; it doesn’t go over well with her religious
parents.
- (17:30) Vin has no boyfriend before her husband. Partly because
she’s the quintessential good girl, and partly because no one
interests her.
- (23:45) Vin struggled with her body image growing up; her
parents consciously kept them from being overweight “for health
reasons.” Health talk can be code for fat phobia, and she’s still
to this day untangling her personal physical truth from this
cultural fear.
- (34:11) Vin talks about meeting her husband.
- (40:20) After they kiss, things get moving and Vin has a fully
clothed orgasm from breast play that she still remembers as a
stand-out moment.
- (47:17) Vin shares what her total lack of experience going into
the marriage looked like. She’d never even used a tampon and
couldn’t fit her husband. He gallantly suggests a small dildo, and
they take their time learning her body together.
- (51:25) They explore anal play to assist with her vaginal
difficulties. It helps!
- (57:35) Vin opens up about the things she never knew existed
and wants to try. The Yes/No/Maybe checklist was an inspiration for
her, and it opens up a lot of conversation with her husband (though
she wants to explore more than he does).
- (1:01:20) Leah shares resources for body image and movement
help for curvy or larger bodies. Vin wants to get comfortable with
physical positions other than being on her back. They also discuss
Literotica and how it can be used for learning and exploration as
well as pleasure.
- (1:06:00) Vin talks about fantasizing about women and bisexual
desires, and they discuss how getting turned on by things that are
taboo doesn’t mean you want to do it in real life.
The Lowdown (1:10:50)
Resources:
Curvy Girl Sex
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https://www.amazon.com/Curvy-Girl-Sex-Elle-Chase-ebook/dp/B01N25F4V0
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